NLP is founded on three core principles:
1. Reality is Subjective
This means that our perception of the world is not reality itself, but rather our own mental representation of it. Our beliefs, values and judgments shape how we see the world and how we behave in it.
2. People are not their behaviours.
This means that we should not judge people based on their actions or words, but rather try to understand the underlying motivation behind them. People can change their behaviours, so it is more productive to focus on changing the underlying beliefs or values that lead to those behaviours.
3. There is no real Failure, only Feedback.
This means that each and every outcome, no matter how negative it’s implications may seem, can be useful in terms of learning and growth. There is always something to be learned from even our most disastrous experiences.
The Techniques of NLP
Neuro-linguistic programming is a set of techniques used to change the way we think, feel and behave. The aim is to help us achieve our goals and get the most out of ourselves and our relationships.
The main techniques used in neuro-linguistic programming are:
- Anchoring: This is a technique used to recall positive emotions or states so that they can be accessed at will. Anchors can be created using any sensory modality (sight, sound, smell, touch, taste) and can be verbal or non-verbal.
- Sub-Modalities: This involves modifying mental images and sounds in order to achieve our goals.
- Reframing: This is a technique used to change the way we think about something by changing the context in which it is considered. For example, we might reframe a negative experience as an opportunity to learn and grow. Another example is, reframing ‘failure’ to ‘learning experience’ in order to feel more positive about a situation.
The Applications of NLP
Neuro-linguistic programming is a revolutionary approach to communication and self-development created in the 1970s.
The idea behind NLP is that our thoughts, language, and behaviour all interact to create our experience of the world. Therefore, through NLP techniques and tools, we can change our thoughts, words and behaviour to achieve specific goals that we seek.
NLP has been shown to be effective in a variety of settings, including business, education, therapy, and personal development. It can be used to improve communication and sales skills, overcome phobias and anxieties, increase confidence and self-esteem, and much more.
The Future of NLP
In the early days of neuro-linguistic programming, there were only a handful of people who knew about it and even fewer who were trained in it. Today, neuro-linguistic programming is practiced all over the world by people from all walks of life. It has been used to help people overcome fears and phobias, improve relationships, achieve success in business, and much more.
As neuro-linguistic programming continues to grow in popularity, there is no doubt that it will continue to evolve. The future of neuro-linguistic programming looks very bright indeed.
The Resources for NLP
NLP is a powerful tool that can be used for personal and professional development. However, it is important to note that NLP is not a one-size-fits-all solution. It is important to find an NLP coach or NLP trainer who is experienced and who can tailor the techniques to your specific needs.
There are many resources available to help you learn NLP, including books, courses, and online programs. Here are a few of the most popular:
– The Neuro-Linguistic Programming Workbook by Bodenhamer and Hallan
– NLP: The New Technology of Achievement by Bandler and La Valle
– NLP For Dummies by Romi Neil