“How do I stick with it?” is a question I hear over and over and over in my business.
Getting excited about a project, in the beginning, is one thing, but about halfway through that organizing or exercising project (yes, I’m probably being optimistic!), your willpower fails, and you begin to wonder just what you were thinking. Sound familiar? But it doesn’t have to be that way.
You CAN stick with it, and here are a few ideas that can help
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Choose fun goals
Examine the choices of your life for the fun factor. Choose goals that make you *smile* now, not “when I get it”, “when I weigh less”, or “when the kids grow up”. If the goal makes you smile every day, you can enjoy the journey and not just the destination. A goal that’s truly yours will light you up, make you grin, or at the very least, give you a sense of peace or um good (like a warm fire on a cold day). LIGHTEN UP – put the fun back into your goals.
Watch your goals
Make sure that your goals haven’t evolved into a “should”, “ought to”, or “boy it’ll be embarrassing to tell people I don’t want to do that anymore”. What your parents think of you – or your kids, or even your friends – should mean a lot to you. But what you think of yourself is just as important. A key to motivation is that it matters to you. A key to motivation is the MOTIVE. It has to be something that keeps you moving in the same direction over and over and over.
Give up the idea that every day will be perfect.
It won’t be! Remind yourself constantly that it doesn’t mean that you won’t get knocked off course once in a while. But what it does mean is that when you get knocked off course, you have the faith and persistence in yourself to self-correct, and get back on course. Even when the goals you have are stressful, as long as you find them interesting and exciting deep inside, the motivation will usually follow. As long as you’re captivated by the goal, even on the days you “give up”, it’ll be easier to get back to it.
Focus on the details
The big picture and the motive behind it is the PULL that helps you remember why you get out of bed every morning, above and beyond the immediate desire to pay the electric bill. But the details — the persistent, consistent, small steps — are what help you manage the big picture without feeling overwhelmed and creating self-doubt. Keep your eye on the task right in front of you.
Make yourself accountable
Grow up. Get real. Decide that this is what you want, and take on the challenge. This is either your desire, or it’s not, and if it’s not just admit it and forget it. But if you DO want it, you’re going to have to make yourself accountable for your decisions and follow through with what needs to be done.
Practice. Practice. Practice
It has to become a new habit. We have a very hard time just “quitting” something. It would help if you replaced an old habit with a new habit. Perhaps you have a habit of tossing your car keys wherever they land when you come in the door. Then every morning it’s a frantic search for them. Now imagine that you’re tired of that habit, so you say, “I’m not going to do that anymore”. At this point, you must decide what you’re going to do instead, and practice, practice, practice the new habit.
Outside motivation
Almost everybody needs some outside motivation from time to time to stay the course. When it happens to you, enlist the help of a friend, a spouse, or a coach to help keep you moving forward. The key here is not to get dependent on them for your motivation. Just like the myth of willpower, using other people for motivation won’t work for long. Use them to help you get back on track and remind you why you do what you do. Then get moving again. The bonus to sticking with a project is that when life throws you some difficult challenges — and it will — you’ll feel confident from having accomplished the other goals. Additionally, having a support system can provide encouragement and accountability, making the journey more enjoyable and fulfilling.
By Katty Jefferson from FunkyFaithGirl
