Given that our relationships can be understood as a fight between Cool Sayimngs, the beginning of managing our image is found in the control of our own self. The first capacity that we have to develop is how to have our ego caged; the second is how to enlarge the cag
Laugh at yourself
Laughing at others is a symptom that your self is growing up. You have to laugh a lot with others, not at others, and a little at yourself. Humor causes the gaze to purge the tensions caused by the need for recognition. Let the irony play with your ego.
Listen more and talk less . You will be wiser the more and better you listen. Paying attention to others, listening to their words and their emotions is a fantastic way to limit the space of that inner voice that gives you answers for almost everything.
Introduce humility in your language.
The essential principle of ontological coaching , whose main referent is Rafael Echeverría , maintains that «language creates reality» . If you introduce humility in your words you will end up infecting your being. Even pretended humility is less harmful than the absence of modesty.
Don’t talk about what you were, but about what you would like to be . Share dreams, goals and banish the “I was” . If you were, you are no longer, which does not imply that your merits are not recognized. Let others attribute past achievements to you. By sharing your wishes, hopes and goals you are giving others the opportunity to contribute to them. Your past is of little interest to others, unless they can learn something from it.
Minimize your knowledge.
You may be an expert at something, but don’t show it off, show it off with your technical skills. Think that when you are part of a large group there will always be someone who knows more than you, whether there really is or not. The desire to learn is an expression of humility and ambition (in the form of personal development) at the same time. Remember that knowledge is a tool, not an end.
Look for learning’s. If you tell your stories as learnings, they can interest the audience. And learn from those who learn. Boasting is a know-it-all who skids easily on the curves of knowledge.
Marry your vanity when you put your head on the pillow and divorce it when you wake up . It’s not bad practice to reflect on the things you’ve done well at the end of the day. Now, that concession to vainglory should go away as soon as you wake up. Weave your story back together with the episodes of the new day.
Celebrate your moral victories . Recreate yourself internally in those sets in which you have acted as you should. Let your ego rest on the effort made to overcome a desire that surrounded the limits of your ethics. Give space to the voice of your conscience.
Choose your Jiminy Cricket.
Ask for feedback from those people whose criteria help you build your persona. It is key that you identify the mentors and coaches who can advise you and accompany you, respectively. Do not get angry when they tell you what you have not done well. Your opinion is a gift.
Rejoice in the successes of others . Envy is the usual companion of self-centeredness. When you recognize other people you are being generous and creating a stimulus that, like a boomerang, will come back to you.
Recognize your limits.
Although the triumphant social discourse whispers to us that nothing is impossible, the truth is that there is. The sooner you recognize them, the sooner you will reduce the levels of frustration in the face of the impossibilities that manifest in your life. For example, I am a mountaineer, but I have to admit that mountains above 6,000 meters are not within my reach. This recognition hurts me because it reminds me of my limitations, among others my age, but it also reconciles me with reality. I can train myself to raise my limits, but not to exceed them. When confronted with reality, the ego tends to run away. If you apply these tips when you look in the mirror in the morning, you will see a beautiful person, a self in balance. And, what is more important, when you go out on the street, others will recognize the person you are.
