This post was most recently updated on April 7th, 2023
Before we continue, I want you to ask yourself if your partner really is emotional, or if you refuse to care about their feelings. The difference exists, whether you believe it or not.
Emotions and Boundaries
There is nothing wrong with setting boundaries and feeling uncomfortable with emotions, this is true for any relationship in your life, and boundaries are probably essential to maintaining a healthy relationship. You should set clear boundaries regarding emotional support with your partner. You should let them know what you are and are not comfortable with. It is important for you to be clear when you have time to listen and when you don’t have time to listen. There are, however, some steps you can take if you feel uncomfortable dealing with emotions right away.
Be honest with your partner and tell them that you are there for them but that you can’t handle being their emotional support at this time. Please let them know you need some space, and while you’re happy to support them, you need them to take active steps to support themselves. Do it nicer than that, but tell them that you think they’d benefit from therapy and from someone who can provide them with actual solutions. You should offer alternative support when you can. Look up some therapists and suggest groups for them. Sometimes the hardest part is to take that step, and if you care about someone, take that step together.
Prioritize Yourself and Your Emotions
Don’t forget to look after yourself. Being a caregiver for someone who requires a lot of emotional support can be very draining. An upsetting mood and a great deal of stress can result from it. Make sure you engage in some self-care, and if your partner wants to join you, suggest some silent meditation. When you love someone but can’t fulfill one of their needs, it’s hard to be there for them. It would be best if you were honest with yourself as well. If you are unable to meet their needs, maybe you should reevaluate the relationship. However, please DO NOT tell them that it is because they are emotional.
How To Handle an Emotional Partner
There are steps you can take if you want to make sure you’re comfortable with your partner if they’re very emotional. It is crucial that you approach the situation with empathy, kindness, and a willingness to be a supportive partner.
Be an active listener, validate their emotions, let them know you are there for them, and be an active participant in the conversation. Avoid rushing them through their emotions and don’t try to end conversations quickly. It is imperative to be patient when dealing with emotional experiences. Allow them to work through their feelings at their own pace, not yours. Ensure you offer as much comfort and reassurance as possible. In addition to providing emotional support, it’s also critical to provide physical support. A touch, a hug, some kind words, and simply being there for someone goes a long way. In fact, some may want sexual touch, in order to receive an endorphin rush. In case their emotions have turned you off, you might consider utilizing a sex toy on them as an alternative! Adult toys can be a great way to help someone cope with sadness and grief. They provide a physical outlet for their emotions, and can help them to feel connected and comforted. They also provide a release of endorphins, hormones that help reduce stress and make us feel good.
While you may be willing to be the person who deals with emotions for someone else, you should still encourage them to seek professional assistance if their emotional experiences interfere with their daily lives. Even if you want to do everything for your person, sometimes it’s just a touch too much for one person to handle.
Managing conflict that arises from their emotions is likely to be difficult, but it is manageable. Don’t blame or attack the other person, and work on your communication skills. You are more likely to be critical and dismissive when you are not experiencing emotional stress yourself. Try to stay centered and be an objective listener. Try to take a moment to reflect mid-conversation, take some space, and keep things from escalating. A rough patch is a normal part of a relationship, just because it’s hard now doesn’t mean it will always be that way.
Don’t forget to take care of yourself. The most effective way to deal with your partner’s intense emotions is to approach each situation with empathy, care, and understanding. Don’t hesitate to be there for your partner, but make sure you’re still doing well yourself. You can’t pour from an empty cup.